By: Mariah Leach

Parenting is very demanding – and every stage of childhood presents new challenges. For parents also living with the pain and fatigue of arthritis, parenting can become even more complex. While each family is unique, here are seven strategies that might help.

1. Fill your own cup first. 

A crucial strategy for any parent, it’s particularly significant for parents navigating the challenges of arthritis. Neglecting your own health and well-being compromises your ability to care for your kids. It’s impossible to pour from an empty cup. When kids see you taking the time to fill your own cup, you are providing a healthy example and emphasizing that every family member deserves to have their needs met.

2. Have a “next step” treatment plan. 

Life with arthritis is full of ups and downs. While it’s not healthy to dwell on possible future setbacks, preparing for them can be useful. Ask your doctor: what will you recommend if our current treatment plan doesn’t work? This gives you time to consider options in advance, and you’ll be ready to activate the next step whenever it is needed.

3. Customize your home. 

The repetitive physical demands of parenting are especially taxing for parents with joint pain, so be thoughtful about your living space. Create many safe places to put babies down throughout the house and consider whether you need changing stations on each floor. For older kids, a system of toy rotation simplifies cleanup and gives you the option to bring out “new” toys on days when you don’t feel well.

4. Embrace a simple schedule.

In a society that glorifies busyness, embracing simplicity can feel challenging, but it can benefit your family. Allowing room for unstructured time in your schedule promotes relaxation and nurtures creativity. And, since flares are often unexpected, a lighter schedule provides flexibility for implementing strategy 1!

5. Don’t be afraid to change your mind.

Families are dynamic, constantly changing and growing. Be open to modifying your parenting techniques if they no longer serve the well-being of your family or if they make it difficult to prioritize health. As your kids grow and your arthritis changes over time, your plans and strategies may also need to change.

6. Accept help. 

Asking for help can be challenging, but there is strength in recognizing it’s impossible to do everything alone. It may be easier to start by saying “yes, thank you” when help is offered. Graciously accepting help from friends and family allows them to experience your gratitude, and over time you may find it easier to request help when needed.

7. Seek understanding and support. 

Parenting with arthritis presents unique challenges, but you’re not alone! We hope you’ll join us on Saturday, June 8th for CAPA’s Parenting in Arthritis event, where we will share research evidence, practical advice, and connection.

No matter the struggles you face as a parent with arthritis, remember that support is available and you’re capable of navigating this journey with resilience and strength.

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